It takes hours to temper..... the hardening happens in minutes doing a flashy hot steel in oil quench......
There is no flashy tempering process. Just hours of boredom......that's why they don't show it.....
Knives shattering is part of the show, because they are taking unknown steels, that they often have not used before,and trying to harden them by sight and magnet check alone (knife makers who harden steel by sight alone are not quite as common as they used to be, and usually have known steels in a darker environment where they have learned through experience what colors correspond with what ranges/hardness results with the chosen steel). Some of the back yard/ shade tree knife makers used to using recycled steels and more primitive methods have done well on the show. Many of the best and most respected knife makers who have lost on the show have more experience, but also are less used to the back yard, eyeball as a gauge, no thermo controlled heat treat, fly by the seat of your pants, high stress environment. Most knife makers of note these days have temperature controlled ovens, thermometers that are relatively accurate, know the temp ranges, soak time at critical temperature, how fast the temp ramp up is, what speed oil to quench in, etc, etc, etc.)
There are lots of back yard/garage knife makers that don't have the equipment, but many of the best makers have become steel scientists. Using steel manufacturers best treat protocols as a starting point, and using experimentation over and over to dial the heat treat to get the results that suit the knife best (hardness, edge retention, toughness, chip resistance, etc, etc)