That is easily achieved Charlie if one conducts themselves in honor with all their personal matters. Shame is only for the shameful; not the honorable. But I feel I'm NOT telling you anything you don't already know. Knowing what to do is one thing, but what one actually does, is what defines us all, first and foremost to ourselves, and then to others.
The way I get around it all in life is to make certain that any form of action I take in any form of matter pertaining to myself I do so in such a way as to make certain it does NOT differ or contravene what I would have liked the other person to have done to me if they were in my shoes and I in theirs in that same matter. It makes for a clear conscious and a healthy level of self esteem.
But personally Charlie, I have no real problem with anyone herein, I just go about me day and notice things that happen. Then I either forget them or I don't, depending on what level of relevance I place on them myself.... but I always forgive anyone who does something to anyone else that I would NOT do myself in similar circumstances. That's the difference between a tainted and clean soul; when a trespass occurs, forgiveness reigns instead of spite and hatred. That's the way God wants good people to act, it's plastered throughout the entire Bible and all other forms of sacred text... nothing new or revolutionary in that really.
It's all good, don't worry yourself if you know you've done the right thing any matter. I've done wrong a times myself, and when I do, I try hard to make up for it best I can. We're all human, we all err at one time or another, nothing new there either.
