I just wanted to teach this feral neighborhood cat how it could trust people for food and shelter. That was my original intention. Over a few months, I have befriended this cat and I have been slowly conditioning it.
I have taught this cat how to play with humans, which is not a skill that comes naturally to a feral cat. They don't know how to be gentle and they don't know how to avoid breaking human skin with their claws. It takes time for them to learn restraint. They don't know what to do with a piece of string that's flung at them or dangled in their face. It's scary and awkward for them at first. It takes time for them to learn what to do. If you pick them up, they can freak out. It's scary for them to trust you. It's scary for them to not have control and to be lifted up to a height where they can be seen easily by things that could hurt them. They start freaking out. It takes time for them to build that trust. Just being held by a human is a massive issue for a feral cat.
I slowly conditioned this cat to come inside for brief periods. At first I coaxed it with food, then with affection, then with play. It was gradually able to spend longer and longer periods of time inside. After a while, it would even tolerate the door being closed. I was succeeding in teaching this feral cat how to coexist with humans. It would even let me pick it up and hold it for brief periods.
At no point did I ever intend to adopt this cat. I don't want a pet. I have had pets in the past and it was too hard for me to let go when the time came. Pets are family, but they just don't live as long as humans do. It hurts so much to lose them.
This cat hangs out around my place all the time now. It's at the point that it sits in front of my door and jumps inside whenever I open it. I have to shoo it out if I'm leaving because I don't want to trap it inside my place while I'm gone. When it comes in, it won't stay inside for too long. It goes for the door after around 20 minutes to an hour. But it wants to come inside all the time even though it leaves quickly.
Is this my cat now? I don't want a pet. I do want to foster animals. I like the idea of that. Teaching animals how to coexist with humans as pets is really appealing to me, but I don't want to actually have pets myself. I don't want to be that attached. I can't do it anymore. It hurts too much.
What do I do here? I'm moving soon. I can't take this cat with me because I'm sure it will be too traumatic for it, but if I leave it I'm worried how it will feel when I'm gone. How will it feel? It will probably think that I abandoned it.
Help me. Do I take this cat with me? Do I drop it it off at an animal shelter? What should I do?
I have taught this cat how to play with humans, which is not a skill that comes naturally to a feral cat. They don't know how to be gentle and they don't know how to avoid breaking human skin with their claws. It takes time for them to learn restraint. They don't know what to do with a piece of string that's flung at them or dangled in their face. It's scary and awkward for them at first. It takes time for them to learn what to do. If you pick them up, they can freak out. It's scary for them to trust you. It's scary for them to not have control and to be lifted up to a height where they can be seen easily by things that could hurt them. They start freaking out. It takes time for them to build that trust. Just being held by a human is a massive issue for a feral cat.
I slowly conditioned this cat to come inside for brief periods. At first I coaxed it with food, then with affection, then with play. It was gradually able to spend longer and longer periods of time inside. After a while, it would even tolerate the door being closed. I was succeeding in teaching this feral cat how to coexist with humans. It would even let me pick it up and hold it for brief periods.
At no point did I ever intend to adopt this cat. I don't want a pet. I have had pets in the past and it was too hard for me to let go when the time came. Pets are family, but they just don't live as long as humans do. It hurts so much to lose them.
This cat hangs out around my place all the time now. It's at the point that it sits in front of my door and jumps inside whenever I open it. I have to shoo it out if I'm leaving because I don't want to trap it inside my place while I'm gone. When it comes in, it won't stay inside for too long. It goes for the door after around 20 minutes to an hour. But it wants to come inside all the time even though it leaves quickly.
Is this my cat now? I don't want a pet. I do want to foster animals. I like the idea of that. Teaching animals how to coexist with humans as pets is really appealing to me, but I don't want to actually have pets myself. I don't want to be that attached. I can't do it anymore. It hurts too much.
What do I do here? I'm moving soon. I can't take this cat with me because I'm sure it will be too traumatic for it, but if I leave it I'm worried how it will feel when I'm gone. How will it feel? It will probably think that I abandoned it.
Help me. Do I take this cat with me? Do I drop it it off at an animal shelter? What should I do?