I applaud your efforts and very thoughtful intent gooeytek. That was a honorable gesture on your part. Your extending yourself to Ray in your primary efforts to help Bell tells everyone here alot about you. I would like to assume that your contribution went ONLY to helping to pay Bell's vet bills, just as I hope mine did as well. But truth be told, at this point, I haven't a clue. Had I not read Ray's post offering to buy Scott's knife AFTER he'd received both of our contributions, I might have held out more hope that our funds went directly to pay the vet bills. But now.......not so much.
If I don't hear from Ray by the 22nd and/or if I do and he tells me to just go ahead and sell the knife........I most certainly will. It should be easy to sell 'cuz like Bill said, "it has $250 of muskox horn scales alone on it". Since I paid $210 and will only ask that same amount, I would hope to be able to sell it. I have no desire to own this knife and never did, whether very well made and beautiful or not. It just was never meant for me to own, albeit, for the short time I had intended until Ray could buy it back as he indicated he wanted very much to do. Seems that what Ray says and what he actually does don't often cross paths. In one of his posts in this thread he referrs to having screwed up alot in the past, but having learned his lesson and is now flying straight. He also added something to the effect, "like everybody else has". Well.......sure, we have all made mistakes, but I've never made a "mistake" when it was my word and reputation on the line. Some things are just not negotiable.......to my way of thinkin'. To continue to screw up, to continue to dissappoint people and to do it intentionally without regard for others or our own reputations................not actions or personality traits that I'd like to be known for.
It was hard not to notice that once Ray received my $ that his interest in his thread and informing us as to how Bell was doing went right out the door. His only posts after receiving the $ were made 'cuz a few of us kept posting him and asking how Bell was doing. Not one time after his initial post did Ray make any attempt to show any thankfulness to anyone who had either helped him out or offered to do so. No matter what experiences people have had in their lives, no matter what family situation or planet you come from......being courteous and respectful are just about as basic as it comes.
I hope that Ray would do what I know many here would do and cuts you a check in the amount that you sent him, whether you expect that or not. Given what we know now, it would seem the only honorable way to go. I know that you don't expect that and didn't from the start, but given his actions and purchasing attempts as of late, it would be the right thing for him to do. When I sent Ray the funds requested for his knife, I was still receiving funds from my Retirement Health Savings Plan. In June, those funds ran out. I had a "personal stash" set aside for my own use and the funds I sent Ray came from this source. Rather than try to exxplain to my wife that I'd like to send $200+ to somebody I'd never met nor talked to to help him out, I thought that perhaps using my own $ might be less of a hassle. Really......who sends someone that kind of $ without ever meeting them and based only on their word that they need it? Well gooeytek......it seems that you and I do......
I know that Bill is upset with how this has all gone down as well. I don't blame him. I'm hoping that the "grief" he is speaking of in his last post has everything to do with Ray's actions and behavior rather than my bringing it up in his forum. Ray started this thread with it clearly being personal in nature........helping him out to pay vet bills. I have tried all possible ways to contact Ray, but he won't respond. It can't be fine that my earliest posts in this thread were very acceptable 'cuz they were all about me helping Ray out, but now suddenly unacceptable and causing grief 'cuz things went south and all is not warm and fuzzy.
Life does have it's ups and downs, forums as well and I would fully expect that we've all read much more dramatic and explosive posts than what has been presented here. If nothing else, it can perhaps be turned into a positive experience and maybe save others the "grief" that has already impacted both gooeytek and myself. But as for any reason to cause anyone else any grief......I don't think so. If it causes Ray to be a bit uncomfortable, well, that feeling is totally self-inflicted and not anyone's else's fault but his own. Any posts that you or I have made should not cause any other member any grief or to feel uncomfortable........it isn't anyone else's fault.
I think that it's better to be informed than not. I would guess that most understand the intent of gooeytek's and my posts and might heed our advice. Our posts were offered not to cause other non-involved members or this forum grief, but to inform them of the possibilities so that they might not find themselves in this same predicament in the future........nothing more.
I wish that someone/anyone would have done that for me and gooeytek before we took our leap of faith. Then again, perhaps no one knew any better which might indicate that Ray had always been up front prior to this "vet bill" deal. I would truly like to believe that it isn't just the way he does business. But whether once or 100 times, I am unfortunately alot more skeptical about what people say since this incident. I don't like feeling that way.....not at all.