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Well, it is off to visit the inlaws. We see them once or twice a year. They have NEVER visited us, though we have suggested it many times, and I really don't want to visit them.
I don't get the feeling that they really want us there either. All are Uber-Christians and really frown at Anne being my fifth wife (Hey, I am a romantic) and me being Anne's fourth husband (she is a romatic also). We grew up in a mindset that when you wanted to sleep with someone, you married them...
But Mama is closing in on 90 years -- may be gone next year -- and getting worse with the complaints and "organ recitals." This is where she lists every ailment, both real and mostly imaginary.
Then there is the "guilt-tripping." She seems to say, "You owe me your life. I carried you for nine months. It was the worst and most painful delivery ever known in the history of womankind! And yet, here I sit alone......."
Then she bad mouths everyone who is not present. You just gotta know that happens when you are not there, also.
Anne calls her faithfully about once a week, it is very frustrating for Anne because most of Mama's conversation revolves around the absolute fact that no one calls her often enough. I wonder why?
The last time Anne talked with Mama, Anne turned to me and said, "I need an exorcism!" That about says it.
Truthfully when I reach Mama's age, I will probably be worse! But now I am venting.
So I am setting my alarm system and have a house sitter whom I trust, letting the Big Dog out in the yard, he has a warm dog house, and we are heading about 200-odd miles north to the little town of Cherryville.
I try, I really try to love these people and I try to stay focussed on what is really going on here in the Christmas celebration.
Thank you Jesus for coming here to teach us forgiveness, and Buddy, be by my side as we face these in-laws!
Next year I hope for Anne and me to be somewhere traveling and not worried about the "folks." Maybe a Christmas and New Year's cruise?
I only go because Anne feels it is her duty. I love her and un-complainingly (to her) go along and smile at everyone.
Forgive us our Christmasses.............
I don't get the feeling that they really want us there either. All are Uber-Christians and really frown at Anne being my fifth wife (Hey, I am a romantic) and me being Anne's fourth husband (she is a romatic also). We grew up in a mindset that when you wanted to sleep with someone, you married them...
But Mama is closing in on 90 years -- may be gone next year -- and getting worse with the complaints and "organ recitals." This is where she lists every ailment, both real and mostly imaginary.
Then there is the "guilt-tripping." She seems to say, "You owe me your life. I carried you for nine months. It was the worst and most painful delivery ever known in the history of womankind! And yet, here I sit alone......."
Then she bad mouths everyone who is not present. You just gotta know that happens when you are not there, also.
Anne calls her faithfully about once a week, it is very frustrating for Anne because most of Mama's conversation revolves around the absolute fact that no one calls her often enough. I wonder why?
The last time Anne talked with Mama, Anne turned to me and said, "I need an exorcism!" That about says it.
Truthfully when I reach Mama's age, I will probably be worse! But now I am venting.
So I am setting my alarm system and have a house sitter whom I trust, letting the Big Dog out in the yard, he has a warm dog house, and we are heading about 200-odd miles north to the little town of Cherryville.
I try, I really try to love these people and I try to stay focussed on what is really going on here in the Christmas celebration.
Thank you Jesus for coming here to teach us forgiveness, and Buddy, be by my side as we face these in-laws!
Next year I hope for Anne and me to be somewhere traveling and not worried about the "folks." Maybe a Christmas and New Year's cruise?
I only go because Anne feels it is her duty. I love her and un-complainingly (to her) go along and smile at everyone.
Forgive us our Christmasses.............