Danelle, I don't know you from Eve, but it bothered me a little when you defeneded TTO aka ATTILIX.
I do not see you saying you absolutely do not want a Moderatorship here, yet.
It wouldn't suprise me if you emerged as a moderator sometime soon.
I don't think Ichabod Poser's reply to Horus' porn post in the community section was that pointed. Here it is:
Originally posted by Ichabod Poser
Horus, as much as I like freedom, I have to say I was disappointed with this post. The last thing we need is another opportunity on the 'net for adult material.
I have tried to hold my tongue on this issue, and I should have backed Wolfmann601 more, and I didn't. Case in point, our new paid-only forum. That crap is juvenile.
Do I have the money to enlist? Of course, I can buy a 500 dollar knife or a 2K 1911 anytime I want.
I took my 'entry fee' and bought my wife a romantic dinner at her favorite restaurant. Then I went home with a real, flesh and blood, six foot blonde in stilleto heels.
She was right there, in the same room as I was, not on some key-board commando's computer screen during a one-handed fantasy.
I'm sorry I chimed in so late for you, Ira.
I do think that Horus did not mean to offend anyone and also posted a appropriate header to the thread.
IMO, your post in response to Poser's was a little over the top. I wonder if it will remain unedited? But here it is:
Originally posted by Danelle O'Shea
<i> From Ichabod Poser</i>
<b>Danelle, I thought the responses were polite, low-key, but direct. And I suppose that it depends on whose ox is being gored. </b>
**I disagree, I think they were more pointed than necessary. Horus has never been a problem. Maybe he just didn't know.
<b>Imagine the reverse. Let's suppose that a group of evangelists found your mall ninja forum and every night posted their unwelcomed threads. I'll bet I know what the unvarnished response would be. </b>
**My Mall Ninja Forum? I have a mall ninja forum? Hmm, I wasn't aware. And guess what, know-it-all, I do have an outlet for messages directly to ME, on my site. And guess what else, wise-ass, it gets hacked FREQUENTLY by no one else but the banned losers from here, most spewing their anti-Danelle hate under the guise of Christianity. Please point me to my unvarnished response to it at BFC so I can smear it all over your shoes.
Maybe you are speaking of the "Super Exclusive Tactical Warrior Ninja Death Free For All Forum for UltraGeniuses" Forum (where did you get MALL from that?). If so, we don't have to worry about "unwelcome threads" in there, cause it's all welcome. That's the point.
<b>My problem is that in cases of speech HERE I don't know where the 'freedom' line ends and the 'censored by good taste' begins.
**</b> HERE? Where is here? America? BFC? I can't understand what you're referring to, because I don't know know where YOU are. Your profile is conspicuously vague. And if I was in a position such as yourself of trying to maintain a certain air of dignity, I probably would advise against opening threads that say "Adults Only".<b>
And be reminded, BFC is not a protected soap box covered by the 1st Amendment. BFC is owned by individuals with a commercial interest. Let's face it, if this forum became more of a loss than a gain the plug would be pulled and no one would look back. </b>
**Now I know you're delusional. This forum has been a monetary loser for Spark from day 1. He doesn't do it for the money. Where've you been?
<b>I've decided that I like the knife related forums and I'll try not to squeak on the rest. That's my solution.</b>
**Good thinking. Don't let the door....
In any case, my comments are only my opinion, and they're not in an inappropriate forum. And yes, most of us are adults, and so all of us big boys and girls can take a little criticism.
I guess what I find a little disturbing, is a lack of perspective from forumites in their responses, my own post here is probably a good example because I certainly don't see all the angles. I, mean, "Rashomon" was only a story that spoke of multiple truths with equal validity but I really see that loyalty, relative popularity often clouds even a parallel and valid truth.
Forgive me my meandering, I probably don't make a lot of sense here but in any case, I'm kinda on "my way out" of this forum, especially because my gold membership is going to expire, and I don't intend to renew.
Its been a interesting weekend. A lot has happened, things that to some are pivotal, but minimized by others. That's perspective too.
I'm guessing that Poser's post and I know my post is a kind of internet reaction to Ken Cook's leaving. It shook me up, and made me re-examine my morals, what values are personally important to me.
Kinda of interesting that people that are supposed to know each other well, don't know each other well enough to know what is important to each other.
A little admission of failibility AKA an apology is often a quick fix for misunderstandings or a LACK of understanding. Explaining why someone shouldn't apologize, and standing by those explaination is definitively standoffish.
Anyway, that's enough emotional vomit from me.