I got call from Bigbore577 wife and sad news is Bigbore passed away yesterday.
I am so sadden with this news.
Please send smoke and prayers for Bigbore and his family.
Dear Awesome Friends of Jay,
I want to thank all of our family & friends for the outpouring of love over the past week. It has been extraordinary – and each story you have shared will help keep “Jay-man” alive in our hearts and memories. I met Jay nearly 34 years ago when I worked part-time at Allgauer's restaurant in Northbrook. He later told me, when he saw me filling out the job application, he told the maître “now, that’s the girl I am going to marry!” Eight months later, we were married!
We had 33 wonderful years of love, happiness, humor, & awesome trust of partnership. Jay gave me the experience of being deeply understood, truly supported, and completely and utterly loved – and I will carry that with me always. Most importantly, he gave me three amazing sons!
Jay was my rock. When I got upset, he stayed calm. When I was worried, he said it would be ok. When I wasn’t sure what to do, he figured it out. He was deeply loved by his sons, family, & friends.
The last few years, Jay & I did not get nearly enough time to do the
things we wanted. He was very still in a state of shock over the huge loss of our beloved Jonathan. As heartbroken as I am today, I am equally grateful for our time we spent together. I still can remember as if it was yesterday, when we took our marriage vows at St. Mary’s in Buffalo Grove. That day, nearly 34 years ago made me so complete. I am so grateful that that God gave us our three loving & compassionate sons. We discussed how many children we would have. I came from a family of 11, so I felt 3 was a good number (especially since I was the 3rd child & oldest girl), now with Jay coming from a small family, he wanted 6 children, I told him “No problem, I will have the first 3 & he will have the next 3”.
We always compromise on the household chores; he shoveled the snow in the summer & cut the lawn in the winter. But with all jokes to the side, I will deeply miss him, his awesome cooking, his story telling & his witty sense of humor. I was so spoiled with each & every dish he prepared. I thank God that all my son’s inherit Jay’s gift of culinary art. This past week, my James prepared outstanding meals just like his Father.
As we put the love of my life to rest. His spirit, soul, amazing ability to give is spiritually among us. It lives on in the stories we share on how he touched their lives, in the love that is visible in the eyes of our family and friends, in the spirit and resilience of our children. Things will never be the same – but the world is better for the years my beloved husband lived.
Thank you again,
Jaye McGinn, James McGinn IV, Christopher, Chico (dog) Reese (cat), & Simon (cat) McGinn