“I’ll take it” doesn’t mean what it used to

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I recently sold a knife and had a member here (with good feedback) say they would take it...then had a full inbox and didn’t respond to profile posts. Two days go by with no response. I thought “I’ll take it” was your word and bond...I guess it’s not anymore.

Shit happens on all our lives that can impact a purchase. My goal isn’t to call anyone out but to see if tracking this sort of thing is worth the effort. I would want to avoid chronic abusers...
 
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It happens but I don't get too upset about it. Stuff happens, people get cold feet. It's not a big deal in my opinion - the transaction never took place and it's just a minor inconvenience having to relist the knife.
 
when I see someone say "I'll take it" I'll move on and sometimes see later that they changed their mind. I'm not interested as much then.
 
It also affects other buyers. I lost out on a knife on the Exchange because someone said they would take it and then ghosted the seller. I would have taken it and did claim seconds. The seller moved on to me, but because it was late, I was asleep by this time. Someone else ended up with it. The original person could have at least said never mind, or I can't pay until tomorrow, etc...
 
DrRollinstein said:
Yeah this can be bad. It's still better than the Facebook crowd. I cant count the amount of times I've had someone ask a million questions, say they're down and that they'll get back to me tomorrow, only to never respond again.

Cant stand other sites besides this place.
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The Facebook crowd is just the worst.
 
I have gad a few like that. I know my notifications from BF are not always working. Is it possible they don't know their inbix box is full and since you were unable to reply think that they missed the knife?
 
In my experience, this crowd is an exception than a norm on this forum. Yes, it does impact other buyers' who may move on... but being a hobby I am not too much worried, someone else will buy it eventually. There are two sides to every story, and I typically just ignore such behavior.
 
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Heirphoto said:
I have gad a few like that. I know my notifications from BF are not always working. Is it possible they don't know their inbix box is full and since you were unable to reply think that they missed the knife?
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It's easy to find out who that 'not buyer' was. It is highly improbable that what you wrote happened. He was on Bladeforums in the last few days (last time, 30 min ago) and he would've seen the notifications as he was quoted in the sale thread and for the message on his profile page. So at least two notifications that he most likely saw.

Not sure why he decided to act this way, but I'll remember this.. So, OP, thank you for the thread!
 
Lance Leon said:
It happens but I don't get too upset about it. Stuff happens, people get cold feet. It's not a big deal in my opinion - the transaction never took place and it's just a minor inconvenience having to relist the knife.
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The transaction took place (everywhere but here) but the buyer failed to perform his part of the deal (everywhere but here) and his word is presumptively no good - everywhere. I don't get too upset about people whose word is no good. After all, mainly politicians run for office and rule the country. As a class, they are disingenuous at best ("Read my lips. No new taxes" " "You get to keep your insurance.") I get just upset enough to hopefully remember never to deal with them ever again. Contact me and tell me something came up that has a higher calling on your $$$, and I will likely forgive as I hope for forgiveness. I will probably never advise you to ignore being welshed on. VMMV - obviously.
 
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Misuse of the I'll take it is a pet peeve of mine, be it disappearing or not really decided they want it yet.
as for disappearing-if you changed your mind or for some reason can't pay, just man up and tell me. Things happen, but and it saves me time and aggravation. Tell me and I will move on, no big problem. I can't force you to pay(nor would I want to).
The second: I'll take it when you really haven't decided does irk me. To me this is just trying to grab the 1st position in line without being willing to follow through. As soon as I see this happening I end talks. Not that it couldn't be worked out, but the deal already has one strike against it and I am not looking to see what else could go wrong.
Neither deserve naming names in a GBU thread, but play in my decision making as to whom I care to deal with. A lot of the things that bother other people don't really bother me, but this one does-pet peeve
 
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There is also a special breed out there that implies they will take it, contingent on getting a "few more photos" or a "few answers to some questions".....this drags on a day until they come up with an overly elaborate excuse as to why they can't pay for it, but "thank you so much for being a great seller and humoring me" :rolleyes: Is this sociopathy, narcissism, spectrum disorder, etc???
 
Many of us that have had to use our word as a survival tool in life, still take pride that others can trust us, and we carry that tradition into all aspects of our dealings.
Other that have never needed to form a close bond of trust based on their word alone, do not take it seriously. They aren’t necessarily bad people, they are just used to having easy breaks in life, that were never dependent on having complete trust in others, for mutual survival.
 
I think I understand what the OP is saying ...

I have seen several "I'll take it's" posted and moved on to find a post the next day "withdrawn" or the seller postings "this one is still available" ...

I don't know the reasoning or cause for the posts and although it can frustrate me if I was truely interested but missed out because I thought it was sold ...

best thing you can do is post "seconds" ... or if this sale doesn't go through I'll take it ... or PM the seller and let them know you're interested.

Now I once backed out of buying a knife with the seller telling me after I posted "I'll take it" ... that there was someone before me he was waiting to hear back from ... so I waited and several hours later saw another of the same knife listed so I first notified the first seller that if his was available I would buy it ... he was still trying to give the first buyer more time so I told him sadly I would withdraw my offer and I bought the second knife ...

it turned out within 30 minutes or less the first knife's seller posted it was still available ... so sadly he missed out on a sale waiting on a biyer claiming his knife then no contact or payment for a day ... and had to amend it to "still available" ... and wait awhile before it sold ...

he did nothing wrong ... in fact he waited far longer then I would have and gave the first buyer more than a fair chance to send payment or back out or contact of some kind ...

it was then that I make sure to add to my sale thread ... "followed up with prompt contact and payment" ... if a buyer contacts me and I know them or I have seen their interactions often enough I may extend them time if the ask but if they can't even contact me I move on ...
 
stonesell said:
Many of us that have had to use our word as a survival tool in life, still take pride that others can trust us, and we carry that tradition into all aspects of our dealings.
Other that have never needed to form a close bond of trust based on their word alone, do not take it seriously. They aren’t necessarily bad people, they are just used to having easy breaks in life, that were never dependent on having complete trust in others, for mutual survival.
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Well said, and so true.
 
ArchVV said:
There is also a special breed out there that implies they will take it, contingent on getting a "few more photos" or a "few answers to some questions".....this drags on a day until they come up with an overly elaborate excuse as to why they can't pay for it, but "thank you so much for being a great seller and humoring me" :rolleyes: Is this sociopathy, narcissism, spectrum disorder, etc???
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Good one ……….. those people irk me too :thumbsdown:
 
I'll move on after a couple of hours with no reply unless it's late, then I'll give it a few hours in the morning. I figure that anyone truly interested will reply timely. If a potential buyer asks for pics or more info then it's still for sale until I get a solid claim.
 
I had someone recently do the 'I'll take it' and then it was crickets, even after a couple of follow ups. I just wish they'd respond that their no longer interested. I dont sweat that too much though. Just move on to the next request.

Vaporstang said:
It also affects other buyers. I lost out on a knife on the Exchange because someone said they would take it and then ghosted the seller. I would have taken it and did claim seconds. The seller moved on to me, but because it was late, I was asleep by this time. Someone else ended up with it. The original person could have at least said never mind, or I can't pay until tomorrow, etc...
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That's a bummer. If I have a interested potential buyer who's a member in high standing, such as you, I'd wait overnight for your response. I always appreciate it when others do that for me!

Things work better when we all try to stick to the Golden Rule.
 
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